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WHAT IS MEMORIALIZATION?
Memorialization is the remembrance a loved one either through
a formal or informal ceremony. Sometimes it is a just a short
moment of silence on special occasions--such as a birthday or
an anniversary.
Other
times, it can include special remembrance items, such as jewelry,
trees, books, collections, etc.
Each family will determine what may be helpful and important in
remembering that special person who has left a void.
Memorialization can also means personalization. Just as each one
of us is unique during our lives, at the time of death that difference
should be remembered and celebrated.
Families
have the opportunity to create a ceremony that acknowledges how
important the loved one was within their lives and within the
community. In the past, funeral services were often dictated often
by religious ritual and distinct traditions--viewing's, wakes,
church services, burials, etc..
These
traditions in ceremony served as a way for us to acknowledge a
persons death in a prescribed fashion.
Today, families are able to choose between traditional services,
creating a completely personalized service--or combining the best
of both. In particular, family members and friends are taking
part in the formal services by offering either poems, readings,
and or music.
Displaying
collages of photos and mementos that
were special to the deceased can be very comforting. Personalizing
items of remembrance such as memorial folders with favorite passages,
hymns, or writings has become significantly important.
Creating
just that “special moment” during the formal service--such
as releasing balloons, doves, or lighting
candles, can be comforting. Sharing ones memories is always
appreciated as well. Most funeral homes and clergy are very willing
to help families explore their options.
The more involved that grieving families and friends participate
in the memorialization process, the closer they will be to healing.
The death of a loved one is not something to sit back and watch
as it happens around us. It is a life event, much like a birth
or marriage.
To
fully participate is to bring meaning to the loss. "What
we keep in memory is ours forever".
For more information on memorialization, please see our bronze
and or granite grave marker
section of our web site. If you wish to talk with one of our consultants
you may call us toll free at 1.877.723.5677,
we would be happy to personally help you arrange a very personalized
memorial fitting for your loved one.
Some
of our standard bronze grave markers sizes are as follows:
| Ledger
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x 72" |
24"
x 30" |
20"
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60"
x 20" |
56"
x 16" |
44"
x 14" |
44"
x 13" |
36"
x 13" |
36" x 10" |
32"
x 13" |
32"
x 10" |
28"
x 16" |
24"
x 42" |
24"
x 16.75" |
24"
x 14" |
24"
x 13" |
24"
x 12" |
22"
x 10" |
20"
x 10" |
20"
x 10" |
16"
x 24" |
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24" x 16.75" |
24"
x 12" |
22" x 10" |
20"
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Here
is a small selection of books through
Amazon.com
to perhaps help with your loss.
These
miniature bronze grave markers samples can be
designed to many various sizes.
Adding
a Granite Base is like framing a picture.
Place
"Two free emblems" on your bronze grave marker.
We will look through our database for you. e.g.. Masonic, Eastern Star,
Military
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Top Palliative Care Blogs The Health Herald, an online publication for nursing assistants, made a list of the top 50 hospice blogs on the internet. Â The page is a great resource for anyone looking for a list of hospice related blogs. Â I'm happy to say my Palliative Care Blog made the list, as did many other blogs I frequent.
Be sure to check out the list when you have some free time and check out some of the blogs listed.
Top 50 Hospice BlogsTop Palliative Care Blogs originally appeared on About.com Palliative Care on Friday, February 5th, 2010 at 19:57:20.Permalink | Comment | Email this
Life and Death Decisions Aren't Always Black and White In a story in the New York Times published January 25th, a daughter tells of her experience being asked to make a life and death decision for her father in the emergency room. Â Her father had been very ill for a long time. Â His kidneys, liver, and heart were failing and his lungs were full of fluid. Â The ER doctor asked about a living will and durable power of attorney (DPOA) status. Â When it was established that she was the DPOA, she was asked to make a decision that thousands are asked to make each year; whether to implement heroic measures or allow the dying process to proceed naturally. Â Her first instinct was to allow her father to die peacefully, avoiding the recurrent ER visits and the traumatic intubation that was required to help him live. Â She took a chance and asked her father, who was minimally responsive, what he wanted and he made it clear that he wanted to be intubated and have everything done possible to save his life.
Her father never made it off the respirator and died several months later. Â This is the kind of death so many people are trying to avoid. Â Most people want to die a peaceful death at home but families and physicians often get in the way, making decisions to prolong the patients death, perhaps to save themselves later guilt. Â This story shows just the opposite - a patient who wants everything done even when the physician and family are ready to let go.
This story is a great example of why it is so important to have discussions with loved ones ahead of time and make your end-of-life wishes known. Â Anytime the decision is left to family members and physicians, the risk is taken to make the opposite decision of what the patient actually wants. Â A living will alone is not enough. Â Clear discussions about what you would want done for you if you were unable to make the decision yourself is the only way to ensure that your loved ones really know what you want. Â This discussion can save you from unwanted and traumatic medical interventions (or ensure that you get them, if that's your wish) and can save your loved ones from a lifetime of guilt and regret if their left unsure whether they made the right decision.
Plan Ahead with Advance Directives
Hands Off! Â Do Not Resuscitate OrdersLife and Death Decisions Aren't Always Black and White originally appeared on About.com Palliative Care on Tuesday, January 26th, 2010 at 14:25:40.Permalink | Comment | Email this
The Dreaded Death Rattle I visited with a new hospice patient and her daughter last week. The patient was nearing death and was aware enough to know that her time was short. We had a wonderful conversation and they were very open to talking about everything that they may expect as she journeyed toward death. One of the daughters main concerns was what to do if her mother developed the "death rattle". She had been told by a co-worker that it was a horrible symptom to be dreaded and she wanted to be sure that we could treat it if it occurred. I reassured her that we could absolutely treat it if it developed but I also reassured her that the death rattle wasn't something to be dreaded.
Interestingly, I visited with another family over the weekend and we were discussing the hospice comfort kit. The kit our hospice sends out to patients includes a medication to dry up the excess secretions in the airway that cause the death rattle. As I was explaining this medication, the patient's daughter interrupted me and said, "But that's not really an uncomfortable symptom is it? I imagine it's probably worse for the people who have to listen to it than it is for the person experiencing it." How very astute! I affirmed her assumption, explaining that the death rattle doesn't likely cause serious discomfort. She then refused the medication saying, "If it's a natural part of death, I'd just assume let it happen and not fight it."
Two very different feelings about an often misunderstood symptom. Neither one is right or wrong. Whether the death rattle is a cause for concern and how aggressively to treat it, if at all, will vary from family to family. The role of hospice is to support the family in whatever is most important to them.
So, what causes the death rattle and how is it treated? Here is some information to help you understand one part of the natural process of dying.
The Death Rattle
The Dying Process
Acts of Love: Caring for a Dying Loved One
The Dreaded Death Rattle originally appeared on About.com Palliative Care on Monday, January 25th, 2010 at 19:26:38.Permalink | Comment | Email this
Kidney Disease Patients Want Advance Planning, Not Necessarily Getting It A recent survey done by Dr. Sara N. Davidson of the University of Alberta revealed that nearly half of patients with chronic kidney disease want to discuss advance healthcare planning with their physician but only ten percent discussed it with their nephrologist and only 10 percent had done so with their family doctor. Most patients surveyed reported that they weren't aware of the palliative care option and didn't know what to expect in the final weeks of their life.
Come on doctors, you've got to do better here. I don't have much more to say about these discouraging numbers than what I said in my last blog post. Be sure to read how I feel about mandatory disclosure of patient's options and take the poll.Kidney Disease Patients Want Advance Planning, Not Necessarily Getting It originally appeared on About.com Palliative Care on Friday, January 15th, 2010 at 15:20:36.Permalink | Comment | Email this
Doctors Delay End-of-Life Talks A recent study in the journal Cancer shows that many doctors delay discussions about end-of-life. Â Guidelines for physicians generally state that doctors should begin end-of-life discussions when it appears the patient has a year or less to live. Â That way, patients can begin to think about how and where they want to die and have time to make necessary arrangements and get their affairs in order. Â The study in Cancer revealed that despite those guidelines, many doctors delay end-of-life talks.
The study asked physicians who cared for cancer patients to imagine one of their patients had 4-6 months to live but felt generally well. Â Then they asked them what topics of discussion they would have with the patient at this time. Â Of the 4,074 doctors surveyed, 65% said they would discuss the patient's prognosis but only 44% said they would discuss resuscitation, 26% said they would discuss hospice, and 21% would discuss site of death.
I'm very discouraged by these results but not entirely surprised. Â So many physicians view death as a failure instead of a natural, though sad, part of life. Â Physicians may feel like they would be crushing a patients hope if they discussed death too soon but neglect to think of how their actions could negatively impact the patients final days.
Patients who aren't told their prognosis nor presented with all their options are more likely to go along with whatever the physician recommends, which is often treatment after treatment and one hospital admission after another. Â They are denied precious time that could be used to prepare for death and say goodbye. Â They are often denied the basic right of choosing how and where they want to die.
The statistic that stands out to me in this study is the percentage of physicians that would discuss hospice care with their patient. Â This patient has less than 6 months to live, which is a clear indicator that a hospice discussion is appropriate. Â I personally feel like it should be mandatory for physicians to discuss the option of hospice with their patients who have 6 months or less to live. Â It would be medical negligence to neglect to tell a patient about a treatment that could save their life. Â It's also negligent, in my opinion, to not tell a patient about a treatment that could dramatically improve the quality of the life they have left.
California is currently the only state in the nation that has a law requiring physicians to discuss all treatment options with terminally ill patients. Â The California Terminal Patient's Right to Know Act was passed in 2008 and requires full disclosure of all available treatment options to terminally ill patients, including hospice care.
What do you think? Â Should doctors be required to tell their patients with 6 months or less to live about hospice care?
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